After spending a few weeks with WordPress, Blogger drives me crazy. I’m thinking the chances of me making future posts on TruthSpiral are pretty slim. So from here on out, if you’re not interested in my personal life, you can just skip over any posts categorized as personal. This is one of them.

Today is the 4th anniversary of sweetie and I’s first kiss on 3/3/03. Those of you who knew me then know that the lead-up to the kiss was extremely drawn out. We were friends for almost a year and spent many nights staying up late together, eating takeout from China Panda, listening to music, having deep talks, and even (after he was got badly bruised up in a car accident) hanging out in bed together. All without kissing or even acknowledging openly that we were rapidly becoming more than friends. Once we finally kissed, the permanence of our relationship was settled almost immediately. Two years later we made it public with this ceremony, and we’ll celebrate that anniversary later this month on the spring equinox.

Here’s a picture of one of my favorite spots in our apartment, a little “altar” to our relationship where we keep some of our favorite things. We keep it mostly to remember how lucky we are. Even though we drive each other nuts sometimes, I’m grateful every day to have found someone who loves me so good.

sweetie ♥ sweetie

Want to see a close-up and details about the objects?

sweetie ♥ sweetie close-up
(photos by yelahneb)

Clockwise, starting in the lower left:

  • driftwood – We found this on the shore at Gwynn’s Island when we were dating, and we thought it looked like a little door. We used a picture of it on a flower as the backdrop image at our ceremony.
  • forest box – Our friend Nancy is an incredibly talented artist, and she made us this lovely box as a ceremony gift. The pine branch on top used to be taller, but kitty decided it looked like a fun thing to attack. Inside the box is a giant sequoia pinecone from our California camping trip in 2003.
  • postcard – We picked up this postcard of Barbara Hepworth’s sculpture “River Form” on our honeymoon.
  • crystal moon – “A dreamer is one who can only find his way by moonlight.” ~ Oscar Wilde
  • origami crane – There are two of these, as you can see in the first picture. They were made by our friend Megan and served as part of the decorations for our ceremony.
  • owl bank – Maybe it’s weird to have a bank on an altar, but we like the idea of a giant wise owl looking out for us, and we really are trying to be sensible about planning for our future. Plus, putting money in the bank is kind of like making an offering.
  • arrow – I made this out of a twig and a stone we picked up at the Crom Estate in Ireland, where some of Ben’s ancestors may once have lived.
  • rose quartz – Our friend Caryn gave this to us before our ceremony. She passed it around and had people fill it up with loving intention. Whether you believe in that or not, it makes me think about all the people who support us.
  • labyrinth box – Another treasure from our honeymoon, this little metal box is carved has the design of these ancient labyrinth carvings, which we visited on our honeymoon. Inside is a small stone that says “soulmate.”
  • tiny books – Ben had three cute little blank books that our friend Jess gave him. For years I coveted them and he kept saving them for something perfect to come to him. In January, we decided that each of us would take one and write something nice to each other in it every day. At the end of the month, we read them to each other. It was cheesey but entirely awesome.

6 thoughts on “kissiversary

  1. awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww congrats!!! my viceroy and i had a similar beginning. we were best friends until out of left field i had a really naughty dream about him. it was all downhill from there lol. this is such a sweet post. thank you for sharing!

    p.s. duh you like it here. WORDPRESS RULES!!!!!!!!! /nerd

  2. That’s very sweet that you are acknowledging your first kiss! I remember my and Wayne’s first kiss. It was at the stroke of midnight on New Year’s Eve. We have managed an anniversary one ever since – imagine that. The altar is wonderful, I love the owl bank.

  3. i love the altar…very lovely! tracy and i have little trinkets of “us” all around the apartment, but i like the idea of having a shrine to our relationship. :)

    plus, dude, you got the bank!! :)

  4. This was beautifully written, and about two of my favorite people on earth. Thanks for the further glimpse into your lives.


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